Join us on June 2nd, 2023 for an evening of music and worship with Chris and his band.
Chris will be playing a half a set with his band, and will perform several songs from the new album, “By His Name,” during the second half of the show. The show is free, for we do not want to inhibit anyone to come join us as we draw closer to God through our music. Donations and love offerings will be accepted and CD’s will be for sale. All proceeds from CD sales will go back into the ministry to support the publication of Chris’ new book, “Every Step: Using God’s Word to Guide Us,” which is scheduled to release in November of 2023.
To listen to Chris’ music and lyrics go to https://singwriteread.com/music/, or to his YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@chrislong1046.
Let’s start by answering the question, what keeps me sober? What is my highest motivation? When I am tempted I can honestly say there is one thing that helps me overcome, and it is not the love and respect of my family, the security of my job, or the opinions of those around me.
It is God. When I am tempted to fall, when I want to fall, God is the first to enter my meditations. Believing in and serving God is not something to be taken lightly, or to be treated as “a common thing.” We must understand who it is we serve and who we have bowed the knee to.
Fear of God
God is perfectly holy. He is perfect love and perfect judgement. He is the Creator of the universe, and of you! He is infinite and all-knowing. He loves me and He loves you so much that He came to earth to prove it. Knowing He would be crucified and would face a horrifying spiritual challenge that we can’t understand. Thereby giving you a way to enter into His perfect and holy presence.
Fear of God
God is awesome! He offers us salvation and eternal life, but only to those who fear Him and His judgement. I fear God’s judgment. I know when I see Him that I will be judged because I am not perfect. But I also know my penalty has been paid for by the blood of Jesus Christ.
This holy and respectful fear of God leads me to desire to be obedient to Him. To love Him back with my sacrifice. My sacrifice is to live a holy life. To walk as a living sacrifice to God. A life worthy of the sacrifice of Jesus Christ.
Read 1 Peter 1:13-21
Respect for God
Even though God has saved me through His Son, Jesus Christ, and He has shown me without doubt that He loves me very much, I refuse to take that for granted. Again, as if it is a “common thing.” While I know I am saved, sober or not, I want to honor the gifts God has given me. Sobriety happens to be one of the least of those gifts, when compared to the sacrifice of His Son for my salvation.
Respect for God
It is truly my desire to honor God with my sobriety, and the fact that He gave it to me is enough for me to honor Him with it. How can I take His gift so lightly and behave so flippantly with it, and then say I have respect for God? I can do that with people and institutions, because I can lie and hide from them. Their ignorance is a salve for my conscience.
But it is not so with God. He is all-knowing and His Holy Spirit resides within me.
Read Hebrews 3:12-15
Love for God
The New Testament is full of God’s declaration of love for you. John 3:16 tells us God loves the world so much He sent His only Son to save us. Romans 5:8 tells us while we are still sinners He gave His life for us. Actually, Jesus gave His life while the people He came to save actively ridiculed Him for it. 1 John 4:19 tells us that we love Him only because He first loved us.
After being saved and becoming filled with the Holy Spirit, I can honestly say I have changed. The way I think about things, big things, like abortion, poverty, addiction, capitalism, and culture, have changed. This is an internal change, a change in the spirit and the soul. What I have more of is this: LOVE.
Love of God
My love for God pushes me to serve Him first, putting aside the desires of my selfish flesh. This includes alcohol and drugs. I don’t want to go back because I don’t want to lose sight of the love I have for God, or the love He has for me.
Ephesians 5:1-2 tells us to be imitators of God. Meaning to walk in love like Christ did. He gave Himself for us. He was a fragrant offering and a sacrifice to God. That’s what the Bible tells us to be, and that is what I want to be. If I start using again, even if I could control it, which I can’t, I would not be loving you like I’m commanded to. I would not be loving you like Christ loved you. Instead, I would be a stumbling block to you. Confusion to you. Even an enabler to you. That is not love. Sobriety is love.
Read Romans 14:14-23
Desire to Obey God
Fear of man can’t keep me from doing anything. Man has the ability to think, to plan, and to organize. If there is something man needs to get away with, he is able to at least convince himself he is smart enough to do so. My wife would be hurt if I started using again. My kids would be confused. As a person I would either be humiliated, or I would stand tall behind a façade of pride. But we would all get over it if we are all aware of our own imperfections. I don’t expect anyone to be perfect if I can’t. Therefor I can forgive an imperfection.
Obey God
But God is perfect. Although He understands and forgives my imperfections, I desire to please Him with my obedience. 1 Corinthians 9:24 and Hebrews 12:1 encourage me to run the race to the end, with the goal of winning it.
God also gives us His Holy Spirit, who in turn gives us the gift of conviction. Whenever I am tempted the Holy Spirit reminds me what He told me in that pizzeria years ago. It’s my choice if I want to give that gift back to God. I do not want to return anything God has given me, burdensome or not. I only want to obey Him. The conviction He gives us is positive conviction. It is conviction that leads us in the right direction and keeps us standing in the light.
Read Romans 12:1-2
In the end, any success you have over addiction, depression ,anxiety, anger, hate, will come from only one sustainable source, God. Here are some bullet points to get you on that track or put you back on it:
Accept Jesus as your Savior and ask for His Spirit to live in you and guide you. Your heart is the key here, not your words.
Read the Bible every day! Period. Ask God to speak and guide you as you read. Show up for God, every day.
Get involved with other Bible believing Christians. Search out and find a church that believes the Bible is the truth. Avoid liberal or progressive Christianity.
That should be enough to get you started. Reach out to me anytime.
Nearly 7 years ago in 2016 God gave me a miracle. After 25 years of chasing the dream through a bottle of booze, He freed me from alcoholism. I can’t tell you how I knew it was a reality. I just did. The miracle was delivered a few days after I completed an assignment given to me by my pastor. It was an assignment of forgiveness.
About a year later that miracle was tested. As I sat alone in a pizzeria that also sold craft beer, I was tempted to have some samples. Why not? I had been free for a year. I was closer to God than ever before. There was no threat of going back to what I was by sampling a couple of craft beers. Was there?
Sobriety
As I waited for the waitress to come back, God spoke to me. He said, “Chris, if you want to give back the gift I gave to you, then that is your choice.”
Ouch. I ordered water.
Late the next year, in 2017, I would give up drugs for good as well. This was done out of obedience to God, and the blessings of song that came from that will have to be told another time.
Recently I watched a young evangelist, who used to be an addict, tell the woman who was interviewing him that he was a changed man, fully and completely, from the inside out. She led him on by suggesting he had no desire for the old life. “None at all,” she stressed. “Nope.” He smiled and said he had no desire for those things. He was completely free and completely changed.
I can say I hope that was true for him, but it wasn’t. He lied. He relapsed years later and died young.
I have no doubt God freed that man from his addictions and used him for His glory. And I have no doubt God freed me from mine. But there is one thing we can’t overlook: Our flesh!
Being freed from your chains does not free you from the consequences of your choices.
We all have it in us to go back.
You might be asking, what keeps me sober? If God gave me sobriety, but He is not keeping me from going back, then what does?
First, I can tell you there is not a man or woman, no prize or possession, that can keep me from self-destruction. If I put my hope in anything of this world and staked my peace, joy, freedom and sobriety on it, all would be lost in moments.
The most awesome earthly blessing God has given me are my wife and my kids. But I’m not sober today because of them. Having them in my heart helps, but they will drive me to use quicker than they’ll keep me from it. Relationships are challenging.
My obedience and sobriety is possible only by these reasons:
Fear of God
Love for God
Respect for God
Desire to Obey God
Come back next week and we’ll expound on these principles.
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In the meantime, check out some of our other posts, like this one about not letting our past, or our scars, define who we are today.
“Seem Me first, and all these other things will be added to you,” Jesus told the crowd during His Sermon on the Mount, in Matthew 6:33.
When 2022 rolled around I put my pen down. I only wrote a couple of blog posts the whole year, did not work on the book I was writing, nor the one I needed to edit, and I did not intend to make an album. Instead I spent the year dedicated to learning more about the craft that I feel I am to use to serve God. The gift of writing that He has blessed me with.
I also spent much of the year questioning this “passion” of mine, and sadly to say, I questioned it not because I did not feel God’s approval of it, but because I did not feel man’s approval of it.
Lord, please forgive me!
But God was still planning to do something with the foundation we had laid together over the last five years. While I was unproductive, at least in producing works, God guided me into a conversation with my friend and brother-in-law, Lucas Diaz. This was in February of 2022. It was during that conversation when Lucas told me about the music he was creating and posting on his YouTube channel, https://www.youtube.com/@ldmusic8764. I already new that Lucas was a talented and well trained musician, what you would call a professional, but what I learned that day was that he was also using digital mediums to craft his songs. This is important, because Lucas lives in Germany, and I am in the United States.
I asked Lucas if he’d consider making a song for me. I only asked for one. It was a song I wanted to record sooner than later because it was written in 2020, about 2020. It was a time sensitive piece. It will be the last song, and the longest song, on the album, By His Name. It is called Our Cities Burn with Fire.
Lucas immediately agreed. Which was a surprise to me because I am certain we had a similar conversation years ago that did not end up in agreement. But this time there was immediate agreement. I sent Lucas a demo of the song and a lyric sheet with chords, the same process we’d use for the next seven songs.
When the song was finished, I was blown away. I was even allowed to paly harmonica on this song. Then the surprises just kept coming. Lucas asked for another one. I graciously conceded another song, even giving Lucas access to my library so he could choose the songs. At the time I was pushing songs that I, as an amateur musician, could not easily play with one acoustic guitar and limited musical capabilities. You know, the more complex or abstract songs, which is a category Our Cities Burned with Fire fit into. Some of the songs didn’t see completion, others did. After working on several songs, we decided to make an album.
I got a little more selective in song choice, trying to balance the album with a mix of works. I gave Lucas complete creative freedom on every song, which means I didn’t tell him what I wanted it to sound like, what genre it should be, or what instruments should be on there. I’m a lyricist, first and foremost, I told him, you are the creator of the music, melodies, and harmonies. Whenever Lucas sent me a completed demo he always asked me to tell him if I liked it or if I wanted to try something different. He is a very humble and king man. I knew the answer before I listened to each demo. I gave my part to the song, and he gave his, and that is the way it would stay.
Lucas, David, and Chris
Editing “By His Name” onsite in Germany
The album would be complete just under a year after we started working on it together. The result is a beautiful and eclectic mix of music and sound. The album spans genres while always staying close to the heart. It is a blend of praise to God and the pain of seeing the results of the evil around us.
Lucas did the bulk of the work on this album, which is why I can honestly say I did not do much in 2022. For every hour I put in he probably put in four. I thank Lucas from the bottom of my heart for taking on this project with me, and I also thank God for being the head engineer.
This is because God, despite my failures and fickle emotions, uses what is available, including what we make available, to accomplish what He wants accomplished. God chose Lucas for this endeavor. I believe that. He prepared him musically, not just for this project alone, but He used that preparation for this project. When this project started, I don’t think either of us thought about whether God was choosing or engineering or using, we just started making songs. But in reflection, this project, regardless of the hours of work Lucas committed to, or the hours of time I spent writing these songs, this project is all God.
My question for you is this. When God chooses you, will you choose Him? Because when he uses You for the glory of His kingdom, you will know it. And it doesn’t matter what our response it, when God chooses us, the work will get done, regardless if we choose Him back.
The gift of choice is what makes us human, but it also gives us much power. We can choose how to handle our emotions, which path we will take when given an option, and how we will respond to God. The latter is a choice all will make, either with intention or in passivity. It doesn’t matter how the choice is made; it still gets made.
If your heart is considering God right now, it is not because of the words on this blog post. It is because God is speaking to you, to your heart. You can talk back to Him, in whispers or in silence, standing or kneeling, alone or in a crowd. He is available everywhere and anywhere, at anytime, just for you. Just talk back to Him. Tell Him your heart. Submit your feelings and emotions to Him. Finally, if you choose, ask Him into your heart for good.
15 years of marriage has taught my wife, Caroll, and I a lot about ourselves, our relationships with God, and about life that is happening all around us, all the time. While marriage itself has its eye-opening moments, being in a multi-cultural marriage adds greatly to those benefits.
I am a Caucasian American, and Caroll is a beautiful Latina from Colombia. The cultural differences we’ve each brought into our married lives has made our family and our home richer, wiser, and more compassionate. Differences, however, can cause conflict just as easily as they bring increase.
Everyone who is married brings differences into the new home. Let’s not be naïve about this and assume Caroll and I are experiencing some kind of anomaly because we are from different continents, countries, and cultures (language included). When any two people get married, they are technically bringing in cultural differences.
Chris and Caroll
For example, the newly wed wife may be accustomed to eating dinner at 6 o’clock around the table with all family members present, while the newly wed husband has grown up eating at 5 o’clock in front of the nightly news with whoever showed up that evening. Likewise, we are joining a man and a woman together under the same roof, if you can’t see the differences there yourself there are plenty of books that will explain it.
Stark cultural differences can up the pressure, and if both parties don’t respond with empathy and compassion, then unbearable trouble can cause the house to collapse. Below are some observations we have made over the years about culture and the potential for confrontation, not only in marriage, but also in life.
Separation
Conflict
Domination
Growth
Separation
The presence of cultural differences in a home do not prelude the existence of separation. If Caroll and I felt that cultures could not be blended, or could not exist together in the same space, we would have a very isolated and unfulfilling marriage. One part of the house would be committed to Colombian décor, Latin music, and sancocho. While my part of the house would be dedicated to US nationalism. We wouldn’t be able to see each other through the blinders of our respective cultures.
Being keenly aware of our tendencies to celebrate our own cultures and histories, we have each embraced each other for who we are and celebrate cultural experiences together, as man and wife. To show my wife that I was dedicated to who she is and that I loved her South American spirit, I painted a huge Colombian flag on the basement wall when we bought our first house together. Reciprocally, Caroll decorates with American flags during the 4th of July. Not because she feels passionate about the 4th, but because she feels passionate about her husband. Right, honey?
Cultural differences often cause us to separate from one another. We want our favorite foods, to listen to the music we like, to dress the way that makes us feel good. All of this naturally draws others with similar tastes together, which in turn makes others feel unwelcome, or even afraid. As believers we must be the individuals who attempt to draw cultures together and make the stranger feel welcome, regardless of class, color, or creed. Read Matthew 25:34-36
Caroll introducing others to her culture
Conflict
Cultural clashes can cause conflict to erupt. How would you envision a marriage that existed under the threat of an argument, or even violence, every time a cultural inclination revealed itself? Is this not the very definition of selfishness and sin? We want things our way, to be comfortable in our surroundings at all times, that we drive away anything different and view it as threatening. Fight or flight kicks in, both causing separation, but the former causing conflict as well.
If every time Caroll made delicious Colombian food, like arepas, or plantains, or hogao, and I refused to eat, even reacting violently with the shove of a chair for instance, our marriage would quickly degrade under the burden of fear. Or if salsa music poured from the speakers when I came home, causing me to angrily rush to the power switch on the speaker, feelings of inadequacy would sprout and flourish. If our marriage were able to survive such abuse and belittling it would be an unfulfilling one at best, and a fist in the face of God at worse.
Is it possible to love and honor your spouse, as the Bible says, if we cannot accept and embrace who they are and where they have come from? Can we love our brother unconditionally, like the Bible says, if we cannot appreciate the cultural uniqueness of their home, or neighborhood?
No! We cannot!
If we cannot accept each other’s cultural differences as real and valid (from both sides, obviously), then we cannot say we have the love of God in our hearts. Read 1 John 4:20 if you think I’m being too harsh.
Domination
Finally, one culture cannot dominate the home or the environment. This forces the other to relinquish his or her culture, along with deep seeded feelings of identity, commitment, and love for who they are. Let me show this in an example.
If my wife came home every day to a house whose walls were filled with American flags, framed copies of the Declaration of Independence, posters of American movie and music icons, and Harley-Davidson paraphernalia, along with classic rock n roll constantly pouring loudly from the speakers, she would not feel appreciated or validated in who she was. There would be no room for her, no room for her identity as a Colombian woman, and no room for her to express herself with who she became in the first 25 years of her life as a Colombian. That is tragic.
When we force our culture onto those who surround us, we are causing friction and are being prideful, forsaking humility. James 4:6, along with many Proverbs on the subject, tells us God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble. Grace can translate to favor, favor to increase, and an increase in anything related to God means peace.
Growing a Solid Marriage
Growth
After reading about separation, conflict, and domination, a clear answer to peace in our home, (and elsewhere, in case you haven’t picked up on the underlying implications of this writing, for it reaches far beyond marriage), you might have recognized the solution for peace, happiness, and love in a multi-cultural marriage. You might have also thought of some benefits of two cultures being unified.
When two cultures blend, making room for one another while embracing their roots, a space is created for God to do wonderful things. We learn from one another, instead of insisting on our own way. We grow together, instead of maintaining a wall of separation. We create newness, instead of resisting change.
Because Caroll and I have blended our lives, our hearts, our cultures, and our love we have seen all these things and more. We have children who speak multiple languages and who have been introduced to and embrace multiple cultures in different parts of the world. We have created culinary masterpieces, combining my love for garlic and her love for cilantro. We have introduced each other to new things and experiences we would have missed out on while we were on this side of God’s creation.
When I look back on our marriage, I am not so proud that I cannot see the reason for the miracle that is our 15 years together. Our marriage, through the grace and love of God, has slowly been built onto His foundation. He has allowed us to accept one another and helped us see clearly so we could make decisions that were beneficial to our marriage instead of harmful. He has given us His Holy Spirit who promises peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, love, gentleness, joy and self-control. Even though we may struggle in the battle against self and selfishness, for we are still human, we have God on our side.
We have a marriage that has been re-dedicated to Him, to serve Him, no matter what. Our multi-cultural marriage reflects Jesus’s love for everyone, invites us to be reminded of His desire for all to be saved, form every country, every social class, every color, every race, and every culture.
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